It’s essential to human relationships. But it’s not always and readily available. Trusting others is a slippery slope. We want to, know we need to. But it’s probably not an automatic response for most of us. Much depends upon our experiences with others from the beginning of our lives. More depends upon our commitment to making relationships work. For us. For others. For the world.
Staying with something when it’s hard is challenge. Self-discipline is difficult enough but interpersonal commitment is a bigger ball of wax. Last week’s “onion” is part of the challenge: do I trust someone enough to peel back layers of protection to reveal who I am? But there’s so much more to this essential dance of relating to others! How will I be received? What will other people do with my trust? Will we be able to stand together with mutual respect for one another?
So many questions and concerns swirl in our heads and hearts! And these weird circumstances of the pandemic only contribute to our fearfulness. And the paradox of “staying connected while we are apart” has become our new way of life, a regime we didn’t opt for but with which we must comply. Remaining committed to relationships seems all the more difficult when we cannot read one another’s body language or feel if an embrace is genuine.
I recently returned to a book I started some time ago (I do that because I’m not self-disciplined when it comes to reading!). It’s by Brene’ Brown. It’s about being your true self while committing yourself to others in relationship. She admits it’s a challenge. And a paradox. And essential to thriving. Through her research Brown discovered seven elements of trust which she arranged in a really cool order so they spell a word – isn’t that nifty? The word is BRAVING. And because this is important stuff, I’m going to be exploring it for the next few weeks. Ready? Here they are:
I hope you’ll join me in this exploration! And in remaining committed to relationships! But, more importantly, to trust!